Advice please....my long time best friend had a serious boyfriend and they decided to try and get pregnant...?

Since that time, he left her for an unknown reason. He is still calling her and helping out financially, though otherwise seems to be physically and emotionally absent. She found out she is pregnant and is now devastated. She expected this man to be in her life and to raise a baby together. She insists that she should not tell him because she doesn't want him to come back just because of the pregnancy. She did say that she will tell him once the pregnance progressed. I think she should tell him because this is something they planned together and it is his responsibility as well. I think a part of her also doesn't want to say anything to him because she is afraid he will tell people and she wants to keep it quite until she passes the first trimester. She is newly pregnant....about 5 weeks. Any advice on what I can tell her or do for her would be greatly appreciated. I feel as if she is putting her pregnancy in jeoporady with all this added stress of the flighty boyfriend.Advice please....my long time best friend had a serious boyfriend and they decided to try and get pregnant...?
Okay, well, he did vow to be there if they were to end up pregnant, but I know first hand and have experienced the truth in - ';No One is promised forever'; - He calls, and is still there financially, that right there should show her that he still cares, maybe he is going through alot himself right now and that's why he called it off...there are MANY possibilities, she needs to rest and stop stressing, because that is no way to keep a healthy pregnancy. As her friend, all you can do is be there for her, emotionally and of course by her side physically. That's what friends are for...try to help take her mind off of this for a minute, take her to dinner and talk about old times, pregnant women love to go out for dinner hehe trust me...and though it seems impossible for her to quit stressing, she will,b ecause soon the ONLY thing that will matter to her is the health of this baby, and the papi sticking around will be a bonus..he can't help ease the stress if he doesn't know about the baby...good luck hon and god bless!Advice please....my long time best friend had a serious boyfriend and they decided to try and get pregnant...?
tell him and hope for the best
I think she needs to tell him shes pegnant ASAP...I dont think she should wiat at all...this is just as much his baby as it is her baby...why wait and put herself through the torment...if hes their financially and still calling thats all that needs to be done right now on his behalf...she really doesnt need to worry about him not being there physically...what matters is her takeing care of that baby and herself...all that lovey doveyt stuff for later...
You are right, it is his responsibility too! But, it is up to her whether she wants to tell him. She may just want to be secure with the way that he feels about her, which is not a bad concept. I mean, would you want a man sticking around because you are pregnant and knowing all the while that he didn't want to be with you? To ease her stress, don't talk about it, let her talk about it if she wants to. Once she gets past the first trimester, bring it up to her, her emotions are nutts right now.


In other words, be there for her, she needs you now more than ever! Be her friend and support her decisions. And, don't pressure her. She will figure it all out pretty soon and then you can voice your opinion, I think that her opinion will change.


Good luck!
She shouldn't wait that long to tell him. By doing so she runs the risk of him not believing it's his. Granted, it doesn't seem like a big time difference between 5 and 12 weeks, but to a guy it is. And even if she tells him and he wants to get back with her, who's to say she has to take him back??? He doesn't have to have a relationship with her to be a part of this childs life.
Continue being a good friend first off. Second I feel he should know but it's a personal opinion on that. As for keeping it secret to everyone else thats not a bad thing per se. Theres always a chance of miscarriage especially before 12 weeks.


I would reassure her that she can tell him and allow him to be daddy even if she doesn't want him personally in her life. This child deserves a daddy and that isn't her choice to make.
this is exactly why young, unmarrieds shouldnt plan kids...they think its just fun and games